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After previous, sad, articles which was how to do it is not necessary and expressed negative ideas and feelings of many Russian Women that refers to, " first-hand ", we shall pass on more optimistical wave!
Also we shall continue, in spirit - how to do - it is desirable!:)
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"What it is necessary to speak the woman?"
Men like eyes, and women - ears. It is old true which with the years has not lost a urgency. Certainly, always there will be women who will assert, that for them is completely unimportant, that the man speaks, the main thing - acts. If he business proves the love then words are not necessary.
On the one hand it is true. Theoretically. With another - you are difficult to present me full pleasure from a joint life in absolute silence concerning personal relations, without such lovely nonsense as «my sun», «my pleasure», «simply silly seal, go here, to a kiss!» … the Trifle, yes, but without this trifle is formed coldish, unpleasant emptiness.
At once I shall note, that one words which have been not supported by acts, cost approximately as much, how many a toilet paper. Sometimes even - go at the price of used. But acts without words is a soup without salt. To gorge on it is possible, but eventually the organism informs, that with it is far from being everything is all right.
Unfortunately, frequently men underestimate importance of words in a female life. Happens, that the woman hears «I Love You» once for all life - during that moment when her elect has dared to propose hands and hearts. And that happens, that this recognition is necessary to squeeze out where as longer, than the offer on visiting the registry office. After that he can quite count, that already all has told. Sometimes men at all do not understand, that from them demand. He in fact likes, sincerely likes! What is necessary? Very little - to tell about it.
So, that is necessary to speak the woman …
Dear, you today especially wonderfully look - is spoken without fail as soon as the wife has tried on the new dress, the new make-up, a new hairdress. Such phrase, on the one hand, will show an estimation of her appearance, and with another - will show attentiveness. The trouble that many men notice that the wife has changed a hairdress only in the event that she has shaved a head - and that is not necessary, that will notice. And it, whether know, it is insulting. In fact the woman decorates herself for the man and if he remains indifferent she starts to feel like unnecessary furniture in the house.
"My pleasure" - is spoken at each opportunity. The opportunity can be anyone: the request to submit something, gratitude for something, the reference in conversation is simple. It shows the relation of the man, shows, than the woman is for him. At the same time also approves the property rights (mine!).
"You the most beautiful!" - if it turns out to screw such phrase during demonstration of any teleshow such as «Ms. the universe» it is absolutely wonderful. Show, that all these "Ms." in your eyes do not suit even on cleaning shoes to your wife. It will be pleasant for her.
"You perfectly prepare" - as for a variant: «All was amazingly tasty!», «Anywhere so well do not eat, as at home» and so on. Similar it is recommended to speak at any action concerning to housekeeping: cleaning, washing, ironing… Dear men, believe, it is far from being all women were born housewives. It at us not in blood, the word of honour! It - a derivative of education and long trainings. And as conducting housekeeping should study persistently very much it would be desirable to hear periodically words of encouragement which show, that movement - in a correct direction, that all is good, and efforts to make the house cosy do not go to waste.
"Dear, what happened?" - it is necessary to say tender tone. Afflictions in a female life enough. Have unsuccessfully stepped on a leg in public transport and have spoiled favourite shoes, the chief has shouted, from under a nose has left by half empty route taxi and it was necessary to choke in the overflown bus, has quarrelled with mum, the girlfriend, whether have ruded in shop … Yes it is not enough that else! There can be simply melancholy mood because of grey weather behind a window.
Yes, I know, it is necessary to be able to cope with such mood, to support in myself optimism and to not pay attention to annoying trifles. Well, and if on soul all the same "cats scrags"? Know, in fact basically they "scrags" from lack of attention. In fact anybody is clear, that, even the favourite husband, cannot save from all afflictions time, will not return left route taxi, will not communicate with all rude sellers … But he can show attention, console - even if the question is simply a trifle,all the same. And "scraging cats" immediately will hide claws and will start prettily to purr.
Men usually do not count affliction of a similar sort worth attention. Generally they are right. But attention all these fine troubles cost not, and - own wife. Also it would be very quite good to notice, that she is upset with something, let even the absolute nonsense. Some tender words - and the mood will be changed, and absence of attention can lead to that the insignificant trifle will grow up till the sizes of tragedy.
"How has passed day?" - it is directly awkward, that it is necessary to remind men of such trifle how to take an interest in pastime of the wife. Also it is not necessary to convince me, that all this and so know. Probably, know. But whether do? How many time to me was necessary to listen to complaints of women which told, that the husband, being home from work, immediately hide a nose in the newspaper or the book and does not leave favourite reading matter even behind meal, and postpones - only being arranged before the TV. Yes, maybe, he tortured by work, all the day long dreamed of how cosy read at house. But what is more expensive - reading or the wife? Neither the newspaper, nor the book, the TV will not get to anywhere. As they say, the game fried, it will not depart. Also will not take offence at all if at it will look on half an hour later. And the wife … it is not necessary to force to feel like the wife the servant.
It happens, certainly, that the similar relation is connected by that in home life not all right, on the wife to look it would not be desirable at all, and in general - «the Fool I was, that her married!». It - not to given article, it - or to the psychologist, the expert on family psychology, or in court with the statement for divorce.
But in fact happens, as at the wife to look it would be desirable, and in family (as the husband thinks) all right, but the man considers, that on the first place his desires stand exclusively. It would be desirable to read now, means - I shall read, and the wife will wait, where she will get to. Besides here still usual neglect to employment of the wife. And in the business, what interesting happens in a female life? One gossips and nonsense.
Take into account, dear men, similar negligence can lead to that you will stay with library and newspaper filings. But alas, without the wife. Also will wonder puzzly then and all associates: «And that did not suffice her? The bird's milk or midges bacon?». Attention. Only attention.
"I love you" - the most important words in your life. It is not necessary to repeat them each five minutes. But sometimes not bad to remind, that the love not simply was, but also is, and is not going to leave anywhere. Present the wife flowers - simply so, without an occasion, not waiting birthday or on Eighth of March, bring to her sweets, a cake (if she loves sweets), pineapple (do not overlook to clear!), yes though a hairpin for hair (by the way, very good gift showing attention which so is necessary for the woman) - and tell, entrusting a bouquet or a tangerine: «my Pleasure, I love you!». And even if from the moment of your wedding have already passed years and years, you will see, that your wife - all the same girl with shining eyes which you once for a long time married.
It is insulting, when home life turns to grey routine where there is only a washing, cleaning and kitchen efforts. And in fact it is far from being always love left. No, she here, has not got to anywhere. Only has strewn lightly with its everyday lives, as a dust. Dear men, brush away a dust, and you will see, that under this grey routine the rainbow is hidden.
Author: Sofia Vargan
Article is taken from a site:
http://shkolazhizni.ru~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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